About DefiningMum

About DefiningMum

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I’m Becky, Mum of three. Now, that’s something that I didn’t think I would ever be able to say. Early Menopause had robbed me of the chance to be a Mum. Or so I thought.

This is my story of infertility, numerous IVF cycles, loss, and the path to donor egg conception. It involved a rollercoaster of emotions and experiences which, even though they were my darkest days, I now wouldn’t change for the world.

Looking back, I realise that I struggled to find any ‘real’ positive stories out there. Amongst the sometimes unhelpful, misinformed advice on the forums, someone I had never met became my main support, confidant and friend throughout the difficult journey. I honestly don’t believe I would be where I am today without her. With that in mind, I feel compelled to share my story in the hope that I can be that inspiration and support to others.

DefiningMum has evolved beyond solely sharing my story. I now host a guest blog with stories from inspirational women who all have different experiences of fertility journeys, egg donation or baby loss. I believe there is so much power to be harnessed by sharing – to change perceptions, encourage understanding and help others feel less alone.

2019 has been an exciting year where I’ve spoken at a number of events, on some inspirational podcasts, and written for a variety of publications – you can find links to these in the ‘Media‘ section of my site.

There are exciting plans for 2020 to bring to life the support I offer with real life events – click here to register your interest and be the first to hear more!