Defining Mum

Why defining mum?

Hi, I’m Becky, Mum of three. Now, that’s something that I didn’t think I would ever be able to say.

Early Menopause had robbed me of the chance to be a Mum. Or so I thought.

This is my story of infertility, numerous IVF cycles, loss, and the path to donor egg conception. It involved a rollercoaster of emotions and experiences which, even though they were my darkest days, I now wouldn’t change for the world.

Looking back, I realise that I struggled to find any ‘real’ positive stories out there. Amongst the sometimes unhelpful, misinformed advice on the forums, someone I had never met became my main support, confidant and friend throughout the difficult journey. I honestly don’t believe I would be where I am today without her. With that in mind, I feel compelled to share my story in the hope that I can be that inspiration and support to others.

One of the most difficult questions I had to answer for myself is ‘What makes a Mum?’. My 27-year-old unknowing self would have probably said that DNA is part of being a Mum. That is why the title ‘Defining Mum’ seemed perfect for my blog. My path towards becoming a Mum has not only defined me as a person and a Mum, it has made me who I am today and given me purpose to help others who may feel the initial hopelessness that I once felt. I have learnt that there is so much more than genetics in being a Mum and I hope to bring that to life in the story of my immeasurable love for my three girls.

Love, Becky x

2 thoughts on “Why defining mum?”

  1. Hi Becky, Congratulations on having the strength to pursue rollercoaster that is IVF then having the courage to look to help others. I had 3 miscarriages after our little girl then embarked on our IVF journey. 3rd round lucky with our fabulous little boy 🍀 We used Care Sheffield xx

  2. This truly brings tears to my eyes. I remember so clearly sitting in that cafe with you, your perfect daughter and my perfect son when you looked at me and said ‘you were right. Genes really don’t matter do they?’
    Two women with two perfect children and not a gene in sight. Two women, complete in every way possible because of the two little people we’d created xxx

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