Hi, I’m Becky, Mum of three. Now, that’s something that I didn’t think I would ever be able to say.
Early Menopause had robbed me of the chance to be a Mum. Or so I thought.
This is my story of infertility, numerous IVF cycles, loss, and the path to donor egg conception. It involved a rollercoaster of emotions and experiences which, even though they were my darkest days, I now wouldn’t change for the world.
Looking back, I realise that I struggled to find any ‘real’ positive stories out there. Amongst the sometimes unhelpful, misinformed advice on the forums, someone I had never met became my main support, confidant and friend throughout the difficult journey. I honestly don’t believe I would be where I am today without her. With that in mind, I feel compelled to share my story in the hope that I can be that inspiration and support to others.
One of the most difficult questions I had to answer for myself is ‘What makes a Mum?’. My 27-year-old unknowing self would have probably said that DNA is part of being a Mum. That is why the title ‘Defining Mum’ seemed perfect for my blog. My path towards becoming a Mum has not only defined me as a person and a Mum, it has made me who I am today and given me purpose to help others who may feel the initial hopelessness that I once felt. I have learnt that there is so much more than genetics in being a Mum and I hope to bring that to life in the story of my immeasurable love for my three girls.