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Facing fears relating to donor conception
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Finding out we’d need to use a donor
I still remember exactly where I was, what the weather was like, even what I was wearing when I first heard the 'D' word. By 'D' word I mean 'Donor'. It was so life-altering for me that the memory...
Sharon’s Story – Egg Donation
I’m not sure if I differ from any other donor egg recipient mums. The wrong side of 35 (I put my career first) my husband and I started trying for a baby and assumed we’d get pregnant naturally....
Guest Blog – Ally from HalfOfMe Podcast
I’m Ally and I’m donor conceived. When I found this out in my late twenties, there were so few resources for people like me, so few voices that echoed my experience. This is why I now like to share...
Rachel’s Story-Single Mother & Egg Donor
When I was in my late teens, I had always said to my Mum that if I am single when I hit 40 I was going to have a baby on my own using a sperm donor. I knew nothing about how it worked or the ins and...
Guest Blog – How to Help Your Kids Cope with Unexpected Questions from Classmates – Jana Rupnow
I am honoured to be sharing a guest blog post, written for @DefiningMum by the amazing @JanaRupnowLPC, a licensed professional counsellor specialising in fertility and family building. In the timely...
Eloise’s Story – Sperm donation
My husband and I had been married for 3 years before we started trying for a baby. We both always wanted children and used to talk in depth about what they’d be called and what they’d be like. The...
Do I Regret Not Trying Again With My Own Eggs?
Regret - Feeling sad, repentant or disappointed over something one has done or failed to do. I’m asked often if I regret not trying again with my own eggs. I can honestly say that I don’t feel one...
Infertility Grief IS real
Infertility grief IS real. It wasn't until I listened to @janarupnowlpc that I truly acknowledged this - it validated everything I’d felt. Many of us have come across someone (usually someone lucky...
Redefining my vision of a Mum…
It wasn’t a simple choice based on odds alone, it was a complex emotional decision that took time. I realise now that one blocker for me was worrying about what others might think – the main worry...
Recognising the odds were stacked against us…
Throughout our infertility journey I was completely emotion-led, to the point where all rational thinking went out of the window. Anything that gave us a possibility, however small and expensive it...
How did I know when it was time to use a donor?
This is probably the most common question I get asked and definitely the most difficult to answer! It’s a complex decision…everyone has their own individual thoughts, experiences, diagnosis, hormone...
Sarah’s Story – Telling the Child
I’m Sarah, a 46 year old mum to a 6 year old son, conceived in northern Cyprus by anonymous egg donation. When my husband and I initially embarked on the donor conception part of our journey,...
A message for Mums-in-the-making on Mothers Day
I understand just how hard Mother’s Day is; without a doubt it’s one of the most difficult times of the year for those experiencing fertility struggles and suffering loss. So much emphasis is put on...
Epigenetics
I’m by no means a scientific person, I’m much more interested and motivated by the ‘fluffy stuff’ – feelings and relationships and it’s probably because of this that personally I never really felt a...
Mummy Rabbit
This is ‘Mummy Rabbit’ – Mila’s favourite thing in the world, she goes everywhere with her, sleeps with her and is her ultimate comfort. I share this with you because I wanted to show that,...
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I’m Becky, an incredibly grateful 34 year old donor egg IVF mum to three beautiful girls. I live in the UK with my husband Matt as well as Mila, aged 3 and twins Eska and Lena, aged 2.
