My story starts in the early 1980’s. My parents have been married for many years but unable to conceive. After exhausting all avenues my parents finally get pregnant with the help of in-vitro...
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Q&A with Martha, an egg donor conceived adult
by Defining Mum | Apr 25, 2021
I'm continuing to share experiences from those who are donor conceived themselves, a vital perspective for us to understand and learn from as parents through donor conception. I’ve found it much...
Q&A with Chloe, an egg donor conceived adult
by Defining Mum | Apr 23, 2021
Today I'm starting to share experiences from those who are donor conceived themselves, a vital perspective for us to understand and learn from as parents through donor conception. I've found it much...
Allie’s Story: What I wish I’d known about using a known egg donor
by Defining Mum | Apr 1, 2021
What I wish I’d known about using a known egg donor Looking back, the darkest part of our whole infertility ‘journey’* was not when I received my diagnosis of premature ovarian failure. Nor was it...
Olivia’s Story – Why I donated my eggs
by Defining Mum | Jan 15, 2021
I am so lucky to be a mum, an egg donor and now an advocate for the most precious gift you can give. So here it is, my story about how I discovered egg donation and the amazing path it set me on. I...
Talking to your child about donor conception
by Defining Mum | Jan 13, 2021
Talking to your child about donor conception can feel both daunting and emotional. Over the past 18 months through my DefiningMum Instagram platform I’ve shared a number of moments from our own...
Early Menopause and Me…
by Defining Mum | Oct 18, 2020
As it's #WorldMenopauseDay today I thought it would be the perfect time to open up more about my experience as a 34 year-old, infertile, menopausal, mum of three (I know there's so much more to me...
Discovering Donation – Free Webinar
by Defining Mum | Aug 14, 2020
I'm delighted to announce my third webinar in collaboration with Altrui Egg Donation and Apricity. 'Discovering Donation' is an evolution of our hugely successful webinar back in May, introducing a...
To tell or not to tell? The school years begin…
by Defining Mum | Jul 17, 2020
It feels like we're approaching a significant change in childhood stages as Mila starts school in just a few weeks time. As I'm sure most parents are, I'm particularly apprehensive and emotional...
What Comments Might Be Difficult For Your Loved One?
by Defining Mum | May 28, 2020
Over recent years there’s been much-needed talk about what not to say to someone facing infertility, but what about donor conception? Inspired by the amazing Alice Rose and her 'Think, What Not to...
Dear Loved One…
by Defining Mum | May 17, 2020
If you’re reading this blog post as someone wishing to support a loved one who is (or has) needed to use a donor to grow their family – thank you. Thank you for taking the time to better understand...
Deciding to use an egg donor – the male perspective
by Defining Mum | Mar 10, 2020
I've been asked many times about how my husband, Matt, felt about the decision to use an egg donor and how he himself came around to the idea. Not being in a position to answer this myself and not...
Happy Together Children’s Book – Telling Mila about her conception
by Defining Mum | Feb 1, 2020
Mila and I finally had the opportunity to read our new book Happy Together Childrens Book - a story about egg donation, kindly gifted to my girls. I actually started talking to her occasionally as a...
Do I Regret Not Trying Again With My Own Eggs?
by Defining Mum | Jun 16, 2019
Regret - Feeling sad, repentant or disappointed over something one has done or failed to do. I’m asked often if I regret not trying again with my own eggs. I can honestly say that I don’t feel one...
How did I know when it was time to use a donor?
by Defining Mum | May 7, 2019
This is probably the most common question I get asked and definitely the most difficult to answer! It’s a complex decision…everyone has their own individual thoughts, experiences, diagnosis, hormone...
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I’m Becky, an incredibly grateful 34 year old donor egg IVF mum to three beautiful girls. I live in the UK with my husband Matt as well as Mila, aged 3 and twins Eska and Lena, aged 2.
