Defining Mum

Defining Mum


Welcome to my blog! A place where I share our story in more detail with reflections from our fertility journey and beyond, now that I’m a thankful Mum to our donor conceived girls. I believe it’s so important to talk about the often hidden emotions, frustrations and fears involved in making this decision as a way to show others that they’re not alone.

If you’d like to read my story in a nutshell – here it is.

Don’t forget to check out my guest blog for different perspectives of fertility stories and donor conception.


Fertility Blog Posts

Breaking The Silence – Dealing With Fertility Struggles Whilst At Work

With the majority of those experiencing fertility struggles being actively employed, how is there so much silence about these issues...
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Breaking The Silence – Dealing With Fertility Struggles Whilst At Work

#CryingShame – Fertility Network UK Campaign

It’s a #CryingShame that those experiencing infertility often feel they need to hide their pain and ‘put on a brave...
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#CryingShame – Fertility Network UK Campaign

Fertility Support Saturday – Instagram Initiative

I’m a big believer in the power of sharing – as therapy for the one sharing but also as a...
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IVF is NOT simply a choice

I’ve had a bee in my bonnet recently, ever since reading some highly insensitive, misinformed comments. The first in response...
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IVF is NOT simply a choice

Infertility Grief IS real

Infertility grief IS real. It wasn't until I listened to @janarupnowlpc that I truly acknowledged this - it validated everything I’d...
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Infertility Grief IS real

A message for Mums-in-the-making on Mothers Day

I understand just how hard Mother’s Day is; without a doubt it’s one of the most difficult times of the...
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A message for Mums-in-the-making on Mothers Day

The Personal Impact of Fertility in the Workplace – My Story

Dealing with fertility struggles whilst trying to maintain a career is one of the biggest challenges I have ever faced....
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The Personal Impact of Fertility in the Workplace – My Story

Don’t Assume!

We are all guilty of making assumptions, imagining that something is happening or going to happen without any proof whatsoever....
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Don’t Assume!

Do Twins Run in the Family? Starting Conversations…

Last week I sat in the Doctors waiting room with Eska and Lena. I had the usual comment of “Ooh,...
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Do Twins Run in the Family? Starting Conversations…

The Vicious Cycle of Infertility – Your Right to Reply

It’s a vicious cycle– nobody talks about infertility and so you worry about people’s reactions, and because you think that...
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The Vicious Cycle of Infertility – Your Right to Reply

Donor Conception Blog Posts

Do I Regret Not Trying Again With My Own Eggs?

Regret - Feeling sad, repentant or disappointed over something one has done or failed to do. I’m asked often if...
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Do I Regret Not Trying Again With My Own Eggs?

Redefining my vision of a Mum…

It wasn’t a simple choice based on odds alone, it was a complex emotional decision that took time. I realise...
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Redefining my vision of a Mum…

Recognising the odds were stacked against us…

Throughout our infertility journey I was completely emotion-led, to the point where all rational thinking went out of the window....
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Recognising the odds were stacked against us…

How did I know when it was time to use a donor?

This is probably the most common question I get asked and definitely the most difficult to answer! It’s a complex...
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How did I know when it was time to use a donor?

Instalive Series – The Emotional Decisions of Donor Conception

I’m so excited to announce my new collaboration with the wonderful Jana Rupnow - a qualified fertility counsellor, specialising in...
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Instalive Series – The Emotional Decisions of Donor Conception

Epigenetics

I’m by no means a scientific person, I’m much more interested and motivated by the ‘fluffy stuff’ – feelings and...
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Epigenetics

Mummy Rabbit

This is ‘Mummy Rabbit’ – Mila’s favourite thing in the world, she goes everywhere with her, sleeps with her and...
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Mummy Rabbit

My Story Chapter 5 – Testing My Resolve

After embryo transfer the wait to find out whether it had worked was torture, it was all I could think...
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My Story Chapter 5 – Testing My Resolve

My Story Chapter 4 – IVF… Cycling Without Stabilisers

The arrival of the drugs along with the associated needles, syringes, vial snappers and sharps bins was particularly overwhelming. The...
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My Story Chapter 4 – IVF… Cycling Without Stabilisers

My Story Chapter 3 – Exciting New Starts (Whilst Avoiding False Starts)

It happened so quickly, I didn’t have a second to think about what lay ahead. Yes, a slightly alternate method...
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My Story Chapter 3 – Exciting New Starts (Whilst Avoiding False Starts)

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