Defining Mum
Welcome to my blog! A place where I share our story in more detail with reflections from our fertility journey and beyond, now that I’m a thankful Mum to our donor conceived girls. I believe it’s so important to talk about the often hidden emotions, frustrations and fears involved in making this decision as a way to show others that they’re not alone.
If you’d like to read my story in a nutshell – here it is.
Don’t forget to check out my guest blog for different perspectives of fertility stories and donor conception.
Fertility Blog Posts
Breaking The Silence – Dealing With Fertility Struggles Whilst At Work
By definingmum2 / October 28, 2019
With the majority of those experiencing fertility struggles being actively employed, how is there so much silence about these issues...
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#CryingShame – Fertility Network UK Campaign
By definingmum2 / August 23, 2019
It’s a #CryingShame that those experiencing infertility often feel they need to hide their pain and ‘put on a brave...
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IVF is NOT simply a choice
By definingmum2 / June 25, 2019
I’ve had a bee in my bonnet recently, ever since reading some highly insensitive, misinformed comments. The first in response...
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Infertility Grief IS real
By definingmum2 / May 16, 2019
Infertility grief IS real. It wasn't until I listened to @janarupnowlpc that I truly acknowledged this - it validated everything I’d...
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A message for Mums-in-the-making on Mothers Day
By definingmum2 / March 30, 2019
I understand just how hard Mother’s Day is; without a doubt it’s one of the most difficult times of the...
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The Personal Impact of Fertility in the Workplace – My Story
By definingmum2 / February 13, 2019
Dealing with fertility struggles whilst trying to maintain a career is one of the biggest challenges I have ever faced....
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Don’t Assume!
By definingmum2 / January 25, 2019
We are all guilty of making assumptions, imagining that something is happening or going to happen without any proof whatsoever....
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Do Twins Run in the Family? Starting Conversations…
By definingmum2 / January 25, 2019
Last week I sat in the Doctors waiting room with Eska and Lena. I had the usual comment of “Ooh,...
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The Vicious Cycle of Infertility – Your Right to Reply
By definingmum2 / January 3, 2019
It’s a vicious cycle– nobody talks about infertility and so you worry about people’s reactions, and because you think that...
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Donor Conception Blog Posts
Do I Regret Not Trying Again With My Own Eggs?
By definingmum2 / June 16, 2019
Regret - Feeling sad, repentant or disappointed over something one has done or failed to do. I’m asked often if...
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Redefining my vision of a Mum…
By definingmum2 / May 10, 2019
It wasn’t a simple choice based on odds alone, it was a complex emotional decision that took time. I realise...
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Recognising the odds were stacked against us…
By definingmum2 / May 9, 2019
Throughout our infertility journey I was completely emotion-led, to the point where all rational thinking went out of the window....
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How did I know when it was time to use a donor?
By definingmum2 / May 7, 2019
This is probably the most common question I get asked and definitely the most difficult to answer! It’s a complex...
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Instalive Series – The Emotional Decisions of Donor Conception
By definingmum2 / March 14, 2019
I’m so excited to announce my new collaboration with the wonderful Jana Rupnow - a qualified fertility counsellor, specialising in...
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Epigenetics
By definingmum2 / March 14, 2019
I’m by no means a scientific person, I’m much more interested and motivated by the ‘fluffy stuff’ – feelings and...
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Mummy Rabbit
By definingmum2 / January 25, 2019
This is ‘Mummy Rabbit’ – Mila’s favourite thing in the world, she goes everywhere with her, sleeps with her and...
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My Story Chapter 5 – Testing My Resolve
By definingmum2 / December 6, 2018
After embryo transfer the wait to find out whether it had worked was torture, it was all I could think...
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My Story Chapter 4 – IVF… Cycling Without Stabilisers
By definingmum2 / November 18, 2018
The arrival of the drugs along with the associated needles, syringes, vial snappers and sharps bins was particularly overwhelming. The...
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My Story Chapter 3 – Exciting New Starts (Whilst Avoiding False Starts)
By definingmum2 / November 14, 2018
It happened so quickly, I didn’t have a second to think about what lay ahead. Yes, a slightly alternate method...
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