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Discovering Donation – Free Webinar

I'm delighted to announce my third webinar in collaboration with Altrui Egg Donation and Apricity. 'Discovering Donation' is an evolution of our hugely successful webinar back in May, introducing a range of perspectives from the donor conception world to explore both...

To tell or not to tell? The school years begin…

It feels like we're approaching a significant change in childhood stages as Mila starts school in just a few weeks time. As I'm sure most parents are, I'm particularly apprehensive and emotional about it all, although I'm trying to hide my emotions as best I can so...

What Not to Say to Someone Using a Donor

There’s been much-needed talk about what not to say to someone facing infertility, but what about donor conception? Inspired by the amazing Alice Rose and her 'Think, What Not to Say" campaign about fertility, I wanted to provide some similar advice in the context of...

Dear Loved One…

If you’re reading this blog post as someone wishing to support a loved one who is (or has) needed to use a donor to grow their family – thank you. Thank you for taking the time to better understand and support them in this huge decision, one that will require love,...

Deciding to use an egg donor – the male perspective

I've been asked many times about how my husband, Matt, felt about the decision to use an egg donor and how he himself came around to the idea. Not being in a position to answer this myself and not wanting to speak on his behalf, I asked whether he would be happy to...

Happy Together Children’s Book – Telling Mila about her conception

Mila and I finally had the opportunity to read our new book Happy Together Childrens Book - a story about egg donation, kindly gifted to my girls. I actually started talking to her occasionally as a baby, holding her in my arms in the middle of the night. For me this...

Do I Regret Not Trying Again With My Own Eggs?

Regret - Feeling sad, repentant or disappointed over something one has done or failed to do. I’m asked often if I regret not trying again with my own eggs.  I can honestly say that I don’t feel one ounce of sadness, repentance or disappointment about choosing to use...

How did I know when it was time to use a donor?

This is probably the most common question I get asked and definitely the most difficult to answer! It’s a complex decision…everyone has their own individual thoughts, experiences, diagnosis, hormone levels and funds available to keep trying with their own eggs. I...
What Does Pride Mean To Me?

What Does Pride Mean To Me?

What does pride mean to me?  An excuse for a party, dancing all night at my friends’ gay club night followed by an after party where I’d usually be first to fall asleep? Yup, that’s what it was for...

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GUEST BLOG – POOJA’S STORY

GUEST BLOG – POOJA’S STORY

Forget the auntyjis and cultural pressures; just look after yourself! ‘Beta (child), you have been married for one year now and still no baby – is something wrong?’ As British Asian women we’ve all...

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Dear Loved One…

Dear Loved One…

If you’re reading this blog post as someone wishing to support a loved one who is (or has) needed to use a donor to grow their family – thank you. Thank you for taking the time to better understand...

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One Step at a Time

One Step at a Time

Guest Blog - By Lilly Ibiza 2016. My husband and I were there for a week having decided the party capital of the world was the best change of scene from three years of trying for a baby and two...

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Anonymity reflections…

Anonymity reflections…

This blog post has been on my mind for a while now, almost a year in fact. For those who didn’t follow me a year ago, I posted about the decision within our story which involved us using an...

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Do I ever wonder ‘what if’?

Do I ever wonder ‘what if’?

I've been thinking about this post for a while, trying to put it into words. I've been asked many times if I ever look back & wonder "what if" or have any regrets about stopping IVF treatment...

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Unexpected questions

Unexpected questions

As you know, we'll always be open with the girls about their conception - they'll never know any different. It's only now that Mila is three and a complete chatterbox, that we can actually talk...

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Conception Gratitude

Conception Gratitude

Jana Rupnow has, yet again, sparked realisation in me! This relates to Jana’s post on ‘Conception Gratitude’. It’s something I want to share and bring to life from the viewpoint of the parent. Jana...

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Defining Motherhood

Defining Motherhood

Recently I’ve been talking about how I came to make the decision to use donor eggs. I realised that the biggest step-change in my decision-making happened when I asked myself a simple question –...

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I’m Becky, an incredibly grateful 34 year old donor egg IVF mum to three beautiful girls. I live in the UK with my husband Matt as well as Mila, aged 3 and twins Eska and Lena, aged 2.

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