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Olivia’s Story – Why I donated my eggs
Talking to your child about donor conception
Early Menopause and Me…
Discovering Donation – Free Webinar
To tell or not to tell? The school years begin…
What Not to Say to Someone Using a Donor
Dear Loved One…
Deciding to use an egg donor – the male perspective
Happy Together Children’s Book – Telling Mila about her conception
Do I Regret Not Trying Again With My Own Eggs?
Olivia’s Story – Why I donated my eggs
by Defining Mum | Jan 15, 2021
I am so lucky to be a mum, an egg donor and now an advocate for the most precious gift you can give. So here it is, my story about how I discovered egg donation and the amazing path it set me on. I...
Talking to your child about donor conception
by Defining Mum | Jan 13, 2021
Talking to your child about donor conception can feel both daunting and emotional. Over the past 18 months through my DefiningMum Instagram platform I’ve shared a number of moments from our own...
Jeannie’s Story: Donor Eggs and Miscarriage
by Defining Mum | Dec 13, 2020
2020 I found myself thinking today, as I was gently cooking some tomatoey sauce to go with our easy IKEA veggie balls and pasta for dinner tonight (you’re advised to take things easy after an embryo...
Seetal’s story: from own eggs to donor eggs
by Defining Mum | Dec 11, 2020
Until recently, I had an attic full of baby paraphernalia: a car seat, pram, Moses basket, breast pillow, pump, etc. And so many baby and maternity clothes. I accepted these hand-me-downs from my...
Early Menopause and Me…
by Defining Mum | Oct 18, 2020
As it's #WorldMenopauseDay today I thought it would be the perfect time to open up more about my experience as a 34 year-old, infertile, menopausal, mum of three (I know there's so much more to me...
Discovering Donation – Free Webinar
by Defining Mum | Aug 14, 2020
I'm delighted to announce my third webinar in collaboration with Altrui Egg Donation and Apricity. 'Discovering Donation' is an evolution of our hugely successful webinar back in May, introducing a...
To tell or not to tell? The school years begin…
by Defining Mum | Jul 17, 2020
It feels like we're approaching a significant change in childhood stages as Mila starts school in just a few weeks time. As I'm sure most parents are, I'm particularly apprehensive and emotional...
What Does Pride Mean To Me?
by Defining Mum | Jul 13, 2020
What does pride mean to me? An excuse for a party, dancing all night at my friends’ gay club night followed by an after party where I’d usually be first to fall asleep? Yup, that’s what it was for...
GUEST BLOG – POOJA’S STORY
by Defining Mum | Jun 30, 2020
Forget the auntyjis and cultural pressures; just look after yourself! ‘Beta (child), you have been married for one year now and still no baby – is something wrong?’ As British Asian women we’ve all...
Kreena’s Incredible Story – Breast Cancer, IVF, Heart Failure, Donor Eggs and Surrogacy
by Defining Mum | Jun 23, 2020
I was 33 when I received a Stage 3 hormonally sensitive breast cancer diagnosis. Within weeks of my diagnosis I underwent a full mastectomy to my left breast, the next stop of the Breast Cancer bus...
“Infertility is always with me”
by Defining Mum | Jun 15, 2020
Guest Blog - By Caroline Even today, after having our beautiful son, the trauma of infertility remains. It feels a part of me, even when I tell myself it will not define me. It is the voice in my...
What Not to Say to Someone Using a Donor
by Defining Mum | May 28, 2020
There’s been much-needed talk about what not to say to someone facing infertility, but what about donor conception? Inspired by the amazing Alice Rose and her 'Think, What Not to Say" campaign about...
“We were two 15 year olds sobbing in bed over infertility.”
by Defining Mum | May 23, 2020
It was back in May 2010 when my whole world fell apart. I was 15, hadn’t started my periods and I was getting increasingly concerned, especially as my younger sister had already started hers. My mam...
Dear Loved One…
by Defining Mum | May 17, 2020
If you’re reading this blog post as someone wishing to support a loved one who is (or has) needed to use a donor to grow their family – thank you. Thank you for taking the time to better understand...
One Step at a Time
by Defining Mum | May 15, 2020
Guest Blog - By Lilly Ibiza 2016. My husband and I were there for a week having decided the party capital of the world was the best change of scene from three years of trying for a baby and two...
Don’t let infertility rob you anymore…
by Defining Mum | May 8, 2020
Guest Blog - By Cat As I sat on the edge of my bed, after just finishing another sobbing session in the shower....I looked in the mirror and saw a familiar sight. My eyes were all red, my face wet...
Anonymity reflections…
by Defining Mum | May 7, 2020
This blog post has been on my mind for a while now, almost a year in fact. For those who didn’t follow me a year ago, I posted about the decision within our story which involved us using an...
Do I ever wonder ‘what if’?
by Defining Mum | May 5, 2020
I've been thinking about this post for a while, trying to put it into words. I've been asked many times if I ever look back & wonder "what if" or have any regrets about stopping IVF treatment...
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I’m Becky, an incredibly grateful 34 year old donor egg IVF mum to three beautiful girls. I live in the UK with my husband Matt as well as Mila, aged 3 and twins Eska and Lena, aged 2.