New Year, New Blog with New Reflections on Parenting after Anonymous Donor Conception
I listened to BBC Woman's Hour last week which featured The Donor Conception Network and The HFEA talking about donor conception in the UK and how, since the law changed back in 2005, this year is...
From Donor Conceived Person to Recipient Parent – Hayley’s Story
My story starts in the early 1980’s. My parents have been married for many years but unable to conceive. After exhausting all avenues my parents finally get pregnant with the help of in-vitro...
Letting them fly…
When we were in the early stages of considering donor conception I heard someone talking about how every year they'd informed their child's school teacher that their child was conceived using donor...
Talking to our children about their conception – Q&A with Dr Marilyn Crawshaw
I recently created a resource to support those using a donor to conceive in talking to family and friends, with advice for loved ones on what it means and how they can best offer emotional support....
Q&A with Martha, an egg donor conceived adult
I'm continuing to share experiences from those who are donor conceived themselves, a vital perspective for us to understand and learn from as parents through donor conception. I’ve found it much...
Q&A with Chloe, an egg donor conceived adult
Today I'm starting to share experiences from those who are donor conceived themselves, a vital perspective for us to understand and learn from as parents through donor conception. I've found it much...
Allie’s Story: What I wish I’d known about using a known egg donor
What I wish I’d known about using a known egg donor Looking back, the darkest part of our whole infertility ‘journey’* was not when I received my diagnosis of premature ovarian failure. Nor was it...
Hayley’s Story
By telling my story I hope to lead the way and help raise awareness of Premature Menopause/POI. As a younger woman who has been dealt this card, I also want to try and help other ladies with my...
Emma’s Story – Endings & Beginnings
January. It has always been a funny time for me. I usually get itchy feet of current situations and yearn for change and growth. I never view it as the beginning of a sparkly, fresh New Year, full...
Olivia’s Story – Why I donated my eggs
I am so lucky to be a mum, an egg donor and now an advocate for the most precious gift you can give. So here it is, my story about how I discovered egg donation and the amazing path it set me on. I...
Talking to your child about donor conception
Talking to your child about donor conception can feel both daunting and emotional. Over the past 18 months through my DefiningMum Instagram platform I’ve shared a number of moments from our own...
Jeannie’s Story: Donor Eggs and Miscarriage
2020 I found myself thinking today, as I was gently cooking some tomatoey sauce to go with our easy IKEA veggie balls and pasta for dinner tonight (you’re advised to take things easy after an embryo...
Seetal’s story: from own eggs to donor eggs
Until recently, I had an attic full of baby paraphernalia: a car seat, pram, Moses basket, breast pillow, pump, etc. And so many baby and maternity clothes. I accepted these hand-me-downs from my...
Early Menopause and Me…
As it's #WorldMenopauseDay today I thought it would be the perfect time to open up more about my experience as a 34 year-old, infertile, menopausal, mum of three (I know there's so much more to me...
To tell or not to tell? The school years begin…
It feels like we're approaching a significant change in childhood stages as Mila starts school in just a few weeks time. As I'm sure most parents are, I'm particularly apprehensive and emotional...
What Does Pride Mean To Me?
What does pride mean to me? An excuse for a party, dancing all night at my friends’ gay club night followed by an after party where I’d usually be first to fall asleep? Yup, that’s what it was for...
GUEST BLOG – POOJA’S STORY
Forget the auntyjis and cultural pressures; just look after yourself! ‘Beta (child), you have been married for one year now and still no baby – is something wrong?’ As British Asian women we’ve all...
Kreena’s Incredible Story – Breast Cancer, IVF, Heart Failure, Donor Eggs and Surrogacy
I was 33 when I received a Stage 3 hormonally sensitive breast cancer diagnosis. Within weeks of my diagnosis I underwent a full mastectomy to my left breast, the next stop of the Breast Cancer bus...
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I’m Becky, a grateful mum to three daughters, a fertility patient advocate, writer, speaker, podcaster, and creator of fertility support specifically for donor conception and the workplace.
Have you got a story to share?
I’m looking for personal reflections around donor conception from the perspectives of recipient parents, parents-to-be, donor conceived people, or donors – all with the aim of providing insights into your perspective, validating experiences, and creating those safe spaces where shame dies and connection begins.
